The Shadow of Why

The question why in our adult lives communicates, to ourselves and others, purpose and belief. Its shadow is when why is asked as a challenge, again of ourselves or others.

In his buzz, When not to ask why?, Ali Anani gives examples of when it may not be the right time to ask why. Or, from my point of view, it may not be the best question to react to. I think this reflects the shadow part of the why because in order to be challenged by the question, it needs to happen at the right time and in the right way. Not in a judgmental or critical way, but instead in a way in which to challenge us into the light of why, its communication of purpose and belief.

Dr. Ali mentions the Golden Circle of questions, a great model that focuses on this perspective of why as connected to purpose and belief.

We are born with “Why” and it is a thread that connects us throughout time.

Dr. Rebecca Palacios writes:

“Our children’s first experiences in asking and answering “why” questions in their quest to understand the world they live in are the building blocks of deep thinking and will help prepare them for the future….Even as adults, we question the “why” of many things not in our control.”

I have written in the past that all animals can respond to the questions:

What (identifying/recognizing) – was that sound?
Where (direction/location) – do I go for shelter?
When (time) – I have to go find a mate.
Who (other) – do I choose to fight?
Which (selection) – is my pack?
How (action) – will my cub get food?

Only humans ask Why – from infancy to our last breath.